I Have An Inkling – Part II

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“ No one discovers their passion, it is built on an inkling”.
Marcus Buckingham

Since Perryann was 7 I have signed her up for every sport or activity that I thought she might enjoy.  All of it in an effort to find her “passion”, that thing she would love to do.  I encouraged her to play soccer and she spent most of the season twirling out in the field.  She displayed incredible rhythm around 8 years old so I figured she had to be a natural at tap, jazz and hip hop.  After hundreds of dollars spent on special shoes and lessons and countless nights and weekends sitting at the studio she decided dancing wasn’t for her.  I come from a musical family, so when she was 9 I assumed Perryann would be a natural on the piano.  She has amazing balance so it seemed logical that we should give gymnastics a try when she was 11.  Even though the Casio keyboard was collecting dust in the garage,  at 12 we purchased her an electric guitar.  At the insistence of a friend, not me this time, swimming has been her activity of choice for the past two years but as school started this year, she has been absent from the pool in favor of joining the Mock Trial team.  Why I feel it is my responsibility to discover her talents for her is beyond me.  I am going to fall back on my go to excuse of “control” issues though I think “out of control” issues suites me better.  It now occurs to me that I may have gone about this and many other needs for discovery all wrong.

Last month I reviewed Marcus Buckingham’s new book “ Find Your Stongest Life. What the happiest most successful women do differently”.  I posted my review here.  As a thank you from Thomas Nelson Publishers we were invited to participate in a webinar with Marcus.  It was awesome.  He talked about the book and the women he interviewed.  He explained his process for collecting the data and allowed for a question and answer time at the end.  The book was enlightening, inspiring and motivating.

The inkling he spoke of is birthed from strong moments in your life – moments that create in you strong positive emotions.  What have you experienced that brings you joy?  Think about it.  What are you doing when you feel the happiest and most fulfilled?  What strengthens you?  Hold on to the positive emotions these activities create, identify them and as Marcus writes “push your life toward them”.

I suppose the best thing I could have done for Perryann was to let her express herself in the way that made her happy.  Now that she is older, I guess I feel more comfortable letting her choose.  She’s done it all, I’m thinking she must have had a strong moment or two in there somewhere.  I suppose I should ask her about her inklings.  It may save me a bunch of money because, I am telling you, she showed great promise as an Archer after a week at summer camp.

Have you had any inklings or strong moments in your life that you wish you had pursued?   Me:  Definitely.

If yes, what is stopping you?  Me: Fear.

What are you going to do about it? Me: I’ll let you know.

More to come….

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  1. Martina Says:

    A few times in my life I have been lost in the moment. Doing something that would let me ignore my place in time and space, the thought flitting through my head like a shooting star: I could do this forever and be happy! Of course, a big Whoosh! of reality usually sucks me right out of that zone with pressing questions: How could I? Is this just mere self-indulgence, or am I finding God’s purpose? Is it my “calling” or my escape? The passion that had me in that magical moment is evaporating by the time I’m through examining my motives. The next phase, thinking through the logistics of stringing those moments into a life, unhooks the clasp I try to keep tight on my bag of fears. Everything I love to do is hindered from taking flight by a ball and chain of things I don’t know how to do. I paint and I think about not knowing anything about the art market or how to break into it. Love photografie, know nothing about shutter speeds or aperature. (And I know I’m misspelling that) When I garden, I know nothing about ph soil levels, or how to programm the sprinklersystem. My writing is thwarthed by fear of bad grammar, and what is a query letter, anyway?
    By now I feel I’m whining…but just like you said, Lori, we all have the gatekeepers of fear in our head, that tell us: ’til here and no further. How do we push them aside?
    The only thing I know to do is to think about Gods grace, and that He has so much more for us…I need “think-lings”…maybe then my inklings about what I’m supposed to do and am capable of will come into focus.

    Thank you for another great post. I”m glad your following your passion.

  2. jennita Says:

    Funny the joke has always been that you were Bill. Well right now, you are me. I am writing this while I research volleyball for Macey, hockey for Will, gymnastics for Daley. All of those things are my wonderful excuses for not pursuing my inkling. The real reason, PARALYZING fear of failure….

  3. Lori Z Says:

    Martina, you continue to amaze me!

  4. Lori Z Says:

    Jennita, Thanks for the comments. Fear seems to be a common denominator for all of us women. Fear of failure and sadly enough fear of success.

  5. Sandra Says:

    I’m struggling with that now. I wrote in my journal last week, “What if I write a book and it’s not good?” Isn’t it easier to read books and review books than write books? Maybe I should just stick to that. So scary! But if I feel that’s what God has called me to do, even if it is for only my own benefit (the time spent in the Word) that obedience will be worth it!

  6. Lori Zimbardi Says:

    I agree, Sandra. I love books and can’t wait to read yours. Obedience trumps fear every time.

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