“ No one discovers their passion, it is built on an inkling”.
Since Perryann was 7 I have signed her up for every sport or activity that I thought she might enjoy. All of it in an effort to find her “passion”, that thing she would love to do. I encouraged her to play soccer and she spent most of the season twirling out in the field. She displayed incredible rhythm around 8 years old so I figured she had to be a natural at tap, jazz and hip hop. After hundreds of dollars spent on special shoes and lessons and countless nights and weekends sitting at the studio she decided dancing wasn’t for her. I come from a musical family, so when she was 9 I assumed Perryann would be a natural on the piano. She has amazing balance so it seemed logical that we should give gymnastics a try when she was 11. Even though the Casio keyboard was collecting dust in the garage, at 12 we purchased her an electric guitar. At the insistence of a friend, not me this time, swimming has been her activity of choice for the past two years but as school started this year, she has been absent from the pool in favor of joining the Mock Trial team. Why I feel it is my responsibility to discover her talents for her is beyond me. I am going to fall back on my go to excuse of “control” issues though I think “out of control” issues suites me better. It now occurs to me that I may have gone about this and many other needs for discovery all wrong.
Last month I reviewed Marcus Buckingham’s new book “ Find Your Stongest Life. What the happiest most successful women do differently”. I posted my review here. As a thank you from Thomas Nelson Publishers we were invited to participate in a webinar with Marcus. It was awesome. He talked about the book and the women he interviewed. He explained his process for collecting the data and allowed for a question and answer time at the end. The book was enlightening, inspiring and motivating.
The inkling he spoke of is birthed from strong moments in your life – moments that create in you strong positive emotions. What have you experienced that brings you joy? Think about it. What are you doing when you feel the happiest and most fulfilled? What strengthens you? Hold on to the positive emotions these activities create, identify them and as Marcus writes “push your life toward them”.
I suppose the best thing I could have done for Perryann was to let her express herself in the way that made her happy. Now that she is older, I guess I feel more comfortable letting her choose. She’s done it all, I’m thinking she must have had a strong moment or two in there somewhere. I suppose I should ask her about her inklings. It may save me a bunch of money because, I am telling you, she showed great promise as an Archer after a week at summer camp.
Have you had any inklings or strong moments in your life that you wish you had pursued? Me: Definitely.
If yes, what is stopping you? Me: Fear.
What are you going to do about it? Me: I’ll let you know.
More to come….
Read Part I - To Lead or Not to Lead