Hurray! Today is my day to post for Fresh Year, Fresh Start! I am honored to be a part of the final posts for our amazing series. Thanks to all who have been apart of it. My blogging friend Jessica is also up today so check out her post at Muthering Heights.
Knowing How and When to Say “No”
Sr. Bona, my religion teacher from my senior year of high school, had the answer. (I have blogged about her before in a post on butchering names, mine included.) Why has it taken 24 years to admit she knew what she was talking about? Well, my brain does not work like it used to and I sorta forgot about this until now and then-as a 17 year old, and at the stage in life when you think you know it all, taking advice from a celibate nun with the unfortunate moniker just didn’t seem..cool.
Say “No Thank you”.
That’s it. She told us that no one can argue with a polite “no thank you”. No excuse is needed. Kindly say no thank you and move on.
Wow. How many times have I desperately not wanted to do something but felt obligated or said yes just to be the hero or look good to who ever was looking….oh, and by the way, no one is looking and if they are looking, their not taking notes and if they are taking notes it’s to remember who to ask the next time they need someone to do something-remember that! Then I lament and stress over committing myself to a task or event that I could have just said, ”I appreciate your thinking of me, but no thank you” and moved on with my life. Brilliant.
So we know how to say no. How about when to say no. Ask yourself these questions:
- Do you really want to do it or do you whine the whole time and proclaim under your breath, “never again”?
- Are you doing it to serve God or to plump up your rep with the PTA moms or MOP gals?
- Do you think having MMS or MCS (Multiple Ministry Syndrome or Multiple Commitment Syndrome) is a good thing?
- Are your kids eating Der Weinershnitzel for dinner, again?
- Do you pack games and toys in the car, not for the park but for when “Mommy just has to make a few stops”?
- Does your time with God suffer because you tell him you’ll BRB after you get a few more emails out?
- Does your child put your job or ministry on her “what I don’t want to be when I grow up list”? (mine did, ouch)
Sr. Bona knows. Just say “No Thank You”.
What do you think? Can we stand together? Throw open our windows and shout “I’m over committed and I’m not going to take it anymore”! I think our husbands and children will thank us.
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